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Attempts at lie-detection have been around ever since we first deceived - pretty much as soon as humans walked upright. Most countries outside the US have moved on from the polygraph - although, as we reported in June, prosecutors in India are now using electroencephalograms to "prove" guilt, despite the science being bitterly disputed.

• Eye contact has been proven the least accurate thing to watch for...
• Most reliable cues typically come from the voice, in specific, the words..
• Common sense is the lie-buster's best weapon, and affirms that it is aural rather than visual clues that are key.
• Lying taxes the mind.
• It involves thinking about what is plausible. People tend to repeat phrases, give shorter answers, and hesitate more.
• They will try to distance themselves from the lie, So use far more impersonal language.
• Often reduce the number of times that they say words like 'I', 'me', and 'mine'.
• To detect deception, look for aural signs associated with having to think hard.

• I used to get my worth from those around me. If I pleased them I felt good about myself, if they were unhappy, I failed.
• Today I get to be "me" when people like it, but more importantly, I get to be "me" even when they don't. I feel a sense of "home" in myself because my worth comes increasingly from inside.
• Self esteem (tribal worth) is how much I think others want to see me. Self esteem is how I see myself through the eyes of my "tribe". In order to belong I spend energy on what "they" want, and try to satisfy the "tribe". Through expanding self esteem I build up my personality (ego).
• Self worth is how much I want to see myself. Do I like who I am? If I follow my heart I feel good, and if I don't I feel bad. Self worth is the "me" I see through my own eyes. The more I love myself the more I want "me" to be present. By expanding self worth I re-connect with my soul.
• Uncovering our self worth from the ashes of our self esteem is the conscious spiritual path!